Cherish Womanhood…..

Alright, this is not cool at all. A recent survey by Nielsen has revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world: 87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone has caused me to stress out. Even in workaholic America, only 53% women feel stressed.

What are we doing to our women? I’m biased, but Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers, sisters, daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends – we love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies?

For now, i want to give Indian women five suggestions to reduce their stress levels.

One, don’t ever think you are without power. Give it back to that mother-in-law. Be who you are, not someone she wished you would be. She doesn’t like you? That’s her problem.

Two, if you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn’t value you -tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand.

Three, educate yourself, learn skills, network – figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.

Four, do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can’t score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don’t make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don’t work until midnight and don’t get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.

Five, most important, don’t get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbor may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don’t – big deal. Do your best, but don’t keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don’t expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain – stress.

So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the world, and have a good life in return. The next time this survey comes, i don’t want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world.

Cherish Womanhood!!

Should we judge anyone?

A cruise ship met with an incident at sea, on the ship was a pair of couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left.

At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.

The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.

The teacher stopped and asked, “What do you think she shouted?”

Most of the students excitedly answered, “I hate you! I was blind!”

Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, “Teacher, I believe she would have shouted – Take care of our child!”

The teacher was surprised, asking “Have you heard this story before?”

The boy shook his head, “Nope, but that was what my mum told my dad before she died to disease”.

The teacher lamented, “The answer is right”.

The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.

Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.

It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness.
At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.

He wrote in his diary, “How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone”.

The story is finished, the class was silent.

The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologizes first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.
One day, all of us will get separated from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had. Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare… And we will smile with invisible tears because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: ‘IT WAS THEM THAT I HAD THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH’.

Karma… as explained in the Mahabharata

𝑾𝑯𝒀 𝑲𝑰𝑵𝑮 𝑫𝑯𝑹𝑰𝑻𝑨𝑹𝑨𝑺𝑯𝑻𝑹𝑨 𝑳𝑶𝑺𝑻 𝑯𝑰𝑺 100 𝑺𝑶𝑵𝑺 𝑨𝑺 𝑬𝑿𝑷𝑳𝑨𝑰𝑵𝑬𝑫 𝑩𝒀 𝑩𝑯𝑨𝑮𝑾𝑨𝑵 𝑲𝑹𝑰𝑺𝑯𝑵𝑨

After losing all his sons in the war Dhritarashtra bowed down before Shri Krishna and prayed, “Oh, Lord! There cannot be anyone in this world who is as unfortunate as me. I was born blind, I never saw my children’s faces and I don’t know how they looked. I never did anything wrong in my life, I was limited by blindness. Why did I still have to go through this terrible punishment?”

Then Shri Krishna explained the law of Karma to Dhritarashtra, He said,” Rajan, There are three types of Karmas:
— 𝐊𝐫𝐢𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐚 𝐊𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐚
— 𝐒𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐚 𝐊𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐚
— 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐝𝐡𝐚 𝐊𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐚

Kriyamana Karma is what we do in everyday life & the result we face in a few days. Rest 2 Karmas are related to each other, They stay and get accumulated. Prarabdha Karma is part of Sanchit Karma that means a collection of past lives Karma.”

Shri Krishna then gives a divine vision to him to see his past 50 births. Dhritrashtra discovered that 50 births back he was a ruthless hunter & once just to have some fun he threw a burning net on a tree full of birds thus causing 100 young birds to be burnt to death. They became blind due to the scorching heat caused by this fire. Due to the effect of Sanchita Karma, he was destined to remain blind in this life and also lose his 100 sons. After listening to Shri Krishna, Dhritrashtra inquired “Krishna why did I not get punished in that birth itself, or the next birth, for the great sin? Why now?”

Shri Krishna smiled & said,” Your Karma had to wait for an opportune time for 50 births during which you could accumulate enough pious deeds to attain the merit of being born a king & have 100 sons in one lifetime.The Sanchita Karma accumulated over the last 50 births would influence your life as Prarabdha Karma could then instantaneously confront you with the effects of that evil action.”

Interesting Superstitions: From Around the World…

I have been brought up by my grandparents, so for me, superstitions was not out of the ordinary. I am not alone, no matter where you are from, you probably have a few superstitions of your own. Each culture, country and each time period comes with a set of weird behaviors and beliefs to promote good luck or ward of negativity. I am super intrigued by some of them across the world, which I have listed below:

China:

  1. The rice jar should never be empty, this causes grave anxiety, as the cessation of cooking during the New Year period is an ill omen.
  2. The cry of a child is believed to bring bad luck to the family, so parents do their best to keep children from crying by whatever means possible.
  3. It is a taboo for a person to brew herbal medicine or take medicine on the first day of the lunar year, otherwise it is believed he or she will get ill for a whole year.
  4. The number four is extremely unlucky (不幸的 – bú xìng de). This is because the pronunciation of four (四 – sì) sounds similar to the Chinese word for death (死 – sǐ). Therefore, many people choose to avoid the number four like the plague. It’s not uncommon to step into an elevator in China and notice that there’s no button for the 4th floor.
  5. When a person’s Zodiac animal will be the next year, this means that it will be a tough year for them. A solution to this superstition is that they will have to purchase red socks or underwear for a good year and to protect themselves.

United States of America:

  1. Find a penny, pick it up and all day you’ll have luck. This little ditty may arise because finding money is lucky in and of itself.
  2. A rabbit’s foot will bring you luck. Rabbit feet as talismans may hark back to early Celtic tribes in Britain. They may also arise from hoodoo, a form of African-American folk magic and superstition that blends Native American, European and African tradition.
  3. Touch wood; Medieval churches would be filled with wood that claimed to be from the cross. The devout believed that touching the wood would give them a link to the divine and, consequently, good luck. The superstition grew from there.
  4. Breaking a mirror is bad luck. The mirror was once considered to be divine and supernatural, and breaking the image was thought to violate its divinity.
  5. Four-leaf clovers are considered powerful. Clovers were once believed to keep away witches and allow the finder to see fairies. A four-leaf clover are rare and hence lucky if you found it!

Portugal:

  1. Spilling wine on the table brings good luck.
  2. The left foot is in particular unlucky, and it is always better to leave a room or enter a house with the right feet.
  3. If you choke it means someone wants what you’re having and if your left ear warms up, it means someone is saying something nasty about you.
  4. If you dress some clothes on reverse by chance, you’ll receive a gift soon .
  5. If it rains and the sun is shining, it means a widow is getting married.

Spain:

  1. A salt shaker should not be passed from hand to hand, instead it must be placed on the table for the other person to pick it up themselves.
  2. It is said that a lighter shouldn’t be shared among more than three people.

France:

    1. Seeing a spider in the evening might come with a good scream, but it also heralds good luck!
    2. If a person in France puts a loaf of bread upside down on the table, it is considered bad luck. This superstition dates back from the Middle Ages. Bakers were accustomed to prepare  a loaf of bread for the executioner. It was placed upside down so that customers knew it was for the executioner. That is why the bread when it is upside down attract misfortune and death.
    3. If your ears are buzzing, it means that someone is gossiping about you, maybe even from far away.

United Kingdom:

  1. Every leaf you catch falling in autumn will bring you the next year one lucky month each.
  2. Leaving a white tablecloth on a table overnight is said to bring bad luck.
  3. If a sparrow enters your house, it means death to one who lives in the house.

Germany:

  1. It is strongly forbidden to say “Cheers” or “Prost” with water, even as a joke, because it is said you are literally wishing death to all your drinking buddies.(Now we don’t want that to happen, do we?)
  2. It is also said that if you offer a new wallet to your friends, you should put a coin in it. This ensures that the recipient will never be poor.

Egypt

  1. Many Egyptians believe that hearing the sound of crows or ravens, especially during the day, means something bad will happen, even the sight of them is considered unpleasant.
  2. Originally an ancient Egyptian superstition, it is still an extremely common belief that leaving footwear upside down is just really wrong. Ancient Egyptians believed that doing so would insult the gods.
  3. It is often believed in Egypt that if you open scissors and close them again without cutting anything means something bad will happen.
  4. Originating in Egypt, but also present across the Arab world it is believed that the figure of the blue turquoise eye protects you from evil, as well as blue beads and the figure of a blue human palm. Turquoise in general is seen as a good sign.
  5. Also originally from ancient Egypt, there’s the belief that throwing salt over your left shoulder before you cook will fend off evil and make your food better.
  6. Ancient Egyptians believed that if you wake up someone suddenly their soul could separate from their body, that’s why it’s still seen as a bad sign if you’re woken up suddenly.
  7. While Western superstitions consider walking under a ladder a sign of bad luck, ancient Egyptians believed ladders could help them climb to heaven, it’s still seen by some as a sign of fortune.
  8. How spilling coffee and good luck can co-exist in the same sentence is both weird and amusing, but some Egyptians do believe that spilling a cup of coffee means you’re going to have a great day.

India

  1. Do not sleep with your head facing North to prevent cardiovascular diseases. They probably made this rule of sleeping with your head in the South because of the harmful effects related to blood pressure and other diseases that asymmetry with the Earth’s magnetic field would create.
  2. A girl shouldn’t do certain things while she is menstruating – giving women time to rest. The first sanitary napkins were invented in the year 1896, while commercial painkillers were not available before the 20th century. Before that, the five stressful days of menstruation which entail cramps and pain for many women were dealt with Indian medicines. Probably women did not work during those days because of discomfort and slowly this became a ritual and degraded to the form of a superstition.
  3. Eat curd and sugar before heading out – to keep a cool head. The tropical climate of India highly recommends the consumption of curd which has a cooling effect on the stomach. The sugar which is added in generous quantities, before someone is setting out for an important work, provides instant glucose. This combination is hence indispensable for Indians and so its consumption slowly linked itself to good luck.
  4. Plaster the floor with cow dung, which acts as a disinfectant. Cow dung plaster is considered auspicious just like any other product of a cow. Hence, mostly all rituals dictate the usage of cow dung to plaster the floor. Our ancestors probably started this practice to guard against insects and reptiles which are repelled by the pungent smell of cow dung. They did not have the luxury to buy bottled commercial disinfectants like we do. But over time this practice became a ritual and we find ourselves following it in spite of it being redundant in the contemporary world.
  5. Swallow Tulsi(Basil) leaves, never chew – Preventing degradation of the enamel. It is widely believed that Tulsi is Goddess Lakshmi’s avatar and hence one should not chew the leaves but directly swallow them. The actual science behind this is that though the Tulsi leaf is healthy, it contains a little amount of Arsenic. Thus chewing it directly causes the teeth to become yellow or results in the degradation of enamel

Every culture has its own set of traditions and beliefs passed down through the ages, and among the most amusing cultural beliefs are superstitions, which are often unique to each society. I enjoyed reading about them across the world, I jotted down a few interesting ones and I hope you enjoy reading them!

 

Narcissism – Widely Used Term!

I have come across many people, while gossiping stating that this person or that person is a narcissist, but do we know what it actually means!

What is the definition of Narcissist?

It is the act of purposely denying, rejecting, minimizing, negatively judging and/or ignoring your expressed experience, thoughts, actions or emotions!

In my life, so far, I have had two such partners, who displayed this exact character, so based on my personal experience, here are four things that a narcissist may say to you in order to invalidate your feelings, thoughts and experiences.

Traits of a Narcissist:

1. Don’t remember the serious conversation: If we had about something he didn’t like, the next day they wake up and don’t acknowledge it and pretend it never happened. By claiming ignorance he was able to keep away from taking any responsibility for his harmful words and actions.

2. Don’t be so lame, don’t react for everything, you’ll be fine: Sometimes they just don’t care about what you want to achieve and are attached to. If they comment on something which you are attached to even if its the worst comment ever, they just don’t care!

3. You are making a very big deal out of nothing: If you are emotionally inconvenient about something, it frustrates them to no end! Then there is the sentence “You made the decision, it’s over and done with, why are you still upset?” These words are clearly stating that my emotions are not valid and I have no right to feel bad or sad over it.

4. The Silent Treatment: The silent treatment is widely regarded as a form of emotional manipulation and even psychological abuse. It is the act of ceasing to initiate or respond to communication with someone else or refusing to acknowledge them all together. This just conveys that I am worth the effort of speaking to working through whatever caused the disagreement in the first place.

What should you do if you are in this situation?

Well, usually they don’t even realize that what they are doing is actually causing harm. So confronting them is an option, but that could also be completely invalidated.

The best advice anyone would give is get out of the relationship and find someone else, but in my opinion, is accept him/her the way they are(a difficult thing to do) but they will never change and at the end of the day they are humans with experiences in their life which has made them the way they are! Not a bad person 🙂

 

 

 

What is Karma???

What is Karma, do people really know!

A beautiful explanation on Karmic relationship –

The relationship that drives people crazy with anger and frustration are from a past life. These are the people who really get under your skin and exasperate you endlessly. Very often, these karmic relationships are with people in your immediate family.

Karmic relationships mean that you’ve had prior lifetimes with this person, and you both were sent back to be together to work things out peacefully. This was your soul’s choice, although it was probably highly pushed upon you by your guides and angels who helped you script out much of your life. Usually a karmic relationship is someone with whom you had a battle or other harsh circumstances. You returned together in this lifetime to ensure that you’d work things out, and clear both of your energies.

If you don’t clear the energies in this lifetime, you’ll be pressured to continue to incarnate with this soul again and again and again.

And each lifetime, his or her relationship to you will continue to be close, either through genetics and familial bonds, or through friendship, marriage, or career. So, that annoying co-worker could be your mother or husband next lifetime unless you clear the energy with her in this one.

You’re brought together with the other soul so that you can forgive him or her. This doesn’t mean forgiving their actions. It means detoxing your soul by releasing anger toward them. You don’t have to hang out with the person, but you do need to release old pent-up toxic feelings. Holding in old anger is caustic and unhealthful.

It’s also a waste of time and energy to blame that person for family dramas and your own upset. Blaming is a projection of our ego, where we don’t own our own shadows and ego issues, and we put them in the basket labeled: “It’s their fault.” And while it may be true that that person is the instigator of traumas, blaming him or her doesn’t help the situation and doesn’t balance the karma between you.

Breaking the Karmic Cycle:

The first step to break this karmic cycle is for you to take responsibility for its presence in your life. Your soul agreed to be with this person because it was necessary for your spiritual progress. So forgiving yourself is the ultimate secret to healing everything in all directions of time.

This involves forgiving yourself for entering this relationship whenever you did in the distant past lifetime. You probably were given red-flag warnings by your angels then, which you chose to ignore or override. Forgive yourself for ignoring those red flags, and vow to listen from now on. Life lessons only count if we learn from them.

You get infuriated by how this person behaves. But this is how this individual’s personality works and has always worked. You were the one who chose to try to be in a relationship with him or her long, long ago. You were the one who decided that all of those red flags that your angels sent you didn’t matter. You were the one who decided that you could change or fix the person.

Now it’s time to let go of that fantasy that this person could be as you desire or dream him or her to be. You’re not the other person’s Source, nor are you the author of his or her life scripts.

Karmic relationships are akin to having a tug-of-war. They’re power plays, where one person will pull and the other person will pull back. No one wins in karmic power plays. But when one person drops his or her side of the rope (through the process of forgiving him- or herself for getting into this tug-of-war in the first place), the power struggle stops.

That is Karma……

Sound of Music – Do Re Me……. and Edelweiss…..

I am born in Generation X brought up by grandparents born earlier than the silent generation which starts a1920 (My grandad was born in 1917), unfortunately when I look up his generation, there wasn’t a name!

I am brought up by grandfather who were very fond classic movies like the Sound of Music, My Fair lady, Chitti Chitti Bang Bang, the Wizard of Oz, Roman Hoilday , Casblanca, Pride and Prejudice, Little Women and the list is endless.

However I was particularly attached to the “Sound of Music”, to the extent that whenever I need something to cheer me up, I end of watching that movie and sing along all the lovely songs.

The Sound of Music is an iconic film based on an iconic play that made its Broadway debut on this day in 1959. It chronicles the life of Maria von Trapp,whose aspiration to become a nun gets derailed when she becomes a governess to the von Trapp children. … Both were based on the true story of Maria von Trapp’s life.

What it teaches us?

The Sound of Music is an iconic film based on an iconic play that made its Broadway debut on this day in 1959. It chronicles the life of Maria Von Trapp played by the most graceful Julie Andrews, whose aspiration to become a nun gets derailed when she becomes a governess to the Von Trapp children. … but perhaps the greatest spiritual message conveyed in The Sound of Music is that sometimes God leads us in ways we don’t understand as part of His plan for our lives. This is clearly demonstrated in the inner conflict Maria experiences when she finds herself falling in love with the captain Von Trapp.(Played by Chistropher Plummer – ever so charming).

The Sound of Music was filmed from March 26 through September 1, 1964, with external scenes shot on location in Salzburg, Austria, and the surrounding region, and interior scenes filmed at the 20th Century Fox studios in California.

Today we have these wonder Sound of Music tours singing the beautiful songs from the movie, which is definitely on my bucket list. (So Salzburg…. coming soon)

If people have seen it will make sense of my blog, if not I encourage you to watch it!

 

 

In the end I would like share the most beautiful songs’ I have ever heard since childhood is “Edelweiss ”

Edelweiss Lyrics……

Edelweiss, edelweiss
Every morning you greet me
Small and white
Clean and bright
You look happy to meet me
Blossom of snow
May you bloom and grow
Bloom and grow forever
Edelweiss, edelweiss
Bless my home-land forever
Small and white
Clean and bright
You look happy to…

 

 

 

 

Suits – My Learning from a TV Series

I am sure most of the world would been hooked on to suits and once started watching it hasn’t been able to stop till they have reached the last episode…

Suits is not just a TV series but it has a deep meaning and learning for all of us in this world! 20 things I learnt are listed below:

  1. If you do something unethical, it’s always going to bite you in the future.
  2. Always have a Plan B, because Plan A more often than not goes wrong!
  3. Stand up for what is right
  4. Let go of Anchors
  5. When you want to convince someone of something they don’t want to be convinced about, give them something better.
  6. When posed with a difficult decision, remember there’s always a choice.There’s always a way. Sometimes, you need to try the unexpected angle.
  7. Keep your composure
  8. Take risks, else you will never know what you really want and what distance you are ready to go.
  9. Take control of and own your responsibilities
  10. Your real friends are those that stand by you, regardless of the odds against you
  11. Master the art of reading people
  12. Be confident, proactive and a delight to everyone out there
  13. always do your research.
  14. When you want to convince someone of something they don’t want to be convinced about, give them something better.
  15. Just go out there and act like you know what you’re doing.
  16. Study, learn non-stop and know your competition.
  17. Don’t waste time trying to explain the problem, fix it instead.
  18. Never ever have a relationship inside the office.
  19. Always be fact-oriented.
  20. Win or lose, loyalty trumps everything.

Everything we do, watch and experience has a learning!

 

Bad Dreams are Good Signs…..

Two nights ago, I had trouble sleeping early, so I watched stand up comedy on YouTube till I fell asleep around 3:00Am. An hour later I got up with a big jolt, it took me a minute to realized that I woke up because of a bad dream I had.

I tried remembering the dream after a few sips of water. In my dream I died in a car accident as we fell off a cliff while driving! I was a little shaken of course, then I started decoding this dream.

My dream decoded was, A car crash dream will often mirror a potentially life-altering event. Maybe you were recently passed over for a promotion, or perhaps your finances took a hit, putting your goal of buying a house out of reach. You could even be wrestling with the consequences of a breakup. Since I don’t know how to drive, riding on the passenger side could mean you’re taking a passive role in life. Whoever is in the driver’s seat(I am unable to remember who it was, though I wish I could :)) could be the person who’s currently calling the shots for you or the driver could indicate the area of your life that needs your attention. For example, if your spouse is driving, perhaps you feel like your relationship has determined your life’s direction.

Well after reading this, I didn’t feel so shaken as I was earlier. It was just reflection of what’s going on in my mind. The reason I say bad dreams are good, is when you decode you are able to put certain situations or certain incidents together that have occurred and are present in your sub-conscious mind which get highlighted and focused upon.

We’ve all had our share of nightmares. Hey, they’re just a natural part of life!

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But sometimes a nightmare is actually more than just a nightmare. If you’re experiencing them frequently or severely (or frequently and severely), there could be something bigger at play. Here are a few signs your bad dreams could indicate something much, much more serious than a series of random mental images.

  • You’re going through withdrawal symptoms
  • You could be overindulging vices likes alcohol, drugs or smoke
  • You’re on the brink of a major life change
  • You’re Lactose Intolerant!(I am…..)
  • You’re not cut out for scary movies(actually that week I watched two ghost movies – Bhoot and Ateet)
  • You’re not getting enough sleep
  • You’re midnight snacking(Hmmmmm…..)
  • There might be a stressful event/incident in your life currently

In the end “The key to forcing yourself to wake up during a troubled dream is, in the first place, to realize that it is not real – that it is a dream: dreaming and recognizing the fact that you have identified areas that need ironing out in the real world!”

 

 

Is Life Unfair…..

Unless you’re winning, most of life will seem hideously unfair to you. The problem isn’t that life is unfair; it’s your broken idea of fairness.

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In Mahabharata, Karna asks Lord Krishna – “My mother left me the moment I was born. Is it my fault I was born an illegitimate child? I did not get the education from Dhronacharya because I was considered not a Kshatriya. Parsuraam taught me but then gave me the curse to forget everything when he came to know I was Son of Kunthi belong to Kshatriya. A cow was accidentally hit by my arrow & its owner cursed me for no fault of mine. I was disgraced in Draupadi’s Swayamvar. Even Kunthi finally told me the truth only to save her other sons. Whatever I received was through Duryodhana’s charity.

So how am I wrong in taking his side ???”

**Lord Krishna replies, “Karna, I was born in a jail. Death was waiting for me even before my birth. The night I was born I was separated from my birth parents. From childhood, you grew up hearing the noise of swords, chariots, horses, bow, and arrows. I got only cow herd’s shed, dung, and multiple attempts on my life even before I could walk! No Army, No Education. I could hear people saying I am the reason for all their problems. When all of you were being appreciated for your valour by your teachers I had not even received any education. I joined Gurukula of Rishi Sandipani only at the age of 16! You are married to a girl of your choice. I didn’t get the girl I loved & rather ended up marrying those who wanted me or the ones I rescued from demons. I had to move my whole community from the banks of Yamuna to far off Sea shore to save them from Jarasandh. I was called a coward for running away!! If Duryodhana wins the war you will get a lot of credit. What do I get if Dharma-raja wins the war? Only the blame for the war and all related problems… Remember one thing, Karna. Everybody has Challenges in life to face.

LIFE IS NOT FAIR & EASY ON ANYBODY!!!

But what is Right (Dharma) is known to your Mind (conscience). No matter how much unfairness we got, how many times we were Disgraced, how many times we Fall, what is important is how you REACTED at that time.

Life’s unfairness does not give you license to walk the wrong path…

Take a proper look at that person you fancy but didn’t fancy you back. That’s a complete person. A person with years of experience being someone completely different to you. A real person who interacts with hundreds or thousands of other people every year.

Our idea of fairness isn’t actually obtainable. It’s really just a cloak for wishful thinking.

Can you imagine how insane life would be if it actually was ‘fair’ to everyone? No-one could fancy anyone who wasn’t the love of their life, for fear of breaking a heart. Companies would only fail if everyone who worked for them was evil. Relationships would only end when both partners died simultaneously. Raindrops would only fall on bad people.

Most of us get so hung up on how we think the world should work that we can’t see how it does. But facing that reality might just be the key to unlocking your understanding of the world, and with it, all of your potential.

Always remember, Life may be tough at few points, but DESTINY is not created by the SHOES we wear but by the STEPS we take…