Has Kaliyuga reached its Zenith?

I have been brought up by someone who was an atheist but a strong follower of the principles of life laid out in the Bhagavad Gita, so having said that while I have not read the Bhagavad Gita myself, I do follow a lot of interesting articles and blogs related to it.

As we are all reeling in the pandemic, I ended up revisiting a few articles I had a read a couple of years ago about the 4 Yugas of Human Kind.

Let me start at the very beginning by explaining what is the Yuga, the 4 stages and what stage are we at today….

Yuga and the 4 Yugas – Meaning

Yuga, in Hindu cosmology, an age of the humankind. As a Yuga cycle progresses, each yuga’s length and humanity’s general morale and physical state within each yuga decreases by one-fourth.

Four such yugas namely, Krita, Treta, Dvapara and Kali.

Krita Yuga : The first and best yuga in a cycle. It is the age of truth and perfection. This yuga has no crime and all humans are kind and friendly. The Krita Yuga is so named because humans are long living, powerfully built, honest, youthful, vigorous, erudite and virtuous. The four Vedas are one. All mankind can attain to supreme blessedness. There is no agriculture or mining since the earth yields those riches on its own. Weather is pleasant and everyone is happy. There is no disease, decrepitude, or fear of anything.

Treta Yuga: In this age, virtue diminishes slightly. At the beginning of the age, many emperors rise to dominance and conquer the world. Wars become frequent and weather begins to change to extremities. Agriculture, labor and mining become existent. 

Dvpara Yuga : In this age, people become tainted with qualities and aren’t as strong as their ancestors. Diseases become rampant. Humans are discontent and fight each other. The Vedas are divided into four parts. People still possess characteristics of youth in old age.

Kali Yuga: It is the age of darkness and ignorance. People stop following dharma and lack virtue. They become slaves to their passions and are barely as powerful as their earliest ancestors of Satya Yuga. Society falls into disuse and people become liars and hypocrites. Knowledge is lost and scriptures are diminished. Humans eat forbidden and dirty food. The environment is polluted causing a scarcity in food and water. Wealth is heavily diminished. Families become non-existent. And this is the current yuga we are in!



Diving deep into Kali Yuga….

Hinduism believes that humanity is in the darkest age. This period in time is known as Kaliyuga. Kaliyuga is characterized by sin, corruption, misery and evil all around.

In the Kaliyuga, as per Lord Krishna, the world loses all its righteousness; people are corrupt and perform evil on a daily basis. Diseases and afflictions plague every human. No one knows the vedas in its entirety and in its true essence. People fight over petty things like religion and land. Even hard work refuses to pay good results and people who perform bad deed sit on the top of the societal ladder.

Bhagavad Gita verses and their translation – Kali Yuga

tataś cānu-dinaṁ dharmaḥ satyaṁ śaucaṁ kṣamā dayā kālena balinā rājan naṅkṣyaty āyur balaṁ smṛtiḥ

Religion, truthfulness, cleanliness, tolerance, mercy, duration of life, physical strength and memory will all diminish day by day because of the powerful influence of the Age of Kali.

vittam eva kalau nṝṇāṁ janmācāra-guṇodayaḥ dharma-nyāya-vyavasthāyāṁ kāraṇaṁ balam eva hi

In Kali-yuga, wealth alone will be considered the sign of a man’s good birth, proper behavior and fine qualities. And law and justice will be applied only on the basis of one’s power.

dāmpatye ’bhirucir hetur māyaiva vyāvahārike strītve puṁstve ca hi ratir vipratve sūtram eva hi

Men and women will live together merely because of superficial attraction, and success in business will depend on deceit. Womanliness and manliness will be judged according to one’s expertise in sex, and a man will be known as a brāhmaṇa just by his wearing a thread.

liṅgam evāśrama-khyātāv anyonyāpatti-kāraṇam avṛttyā nyāya-daurbalyaṁ pāṇḍitye cāpalaṁ vacaḥ

A person’s spiritual position will be ascertained merely according to external symbols, and on that same basis people will change from one spiritual order to the next. A person’s propriety will be seriously questioned if he does not earn a good living. And one who is very clever at juggling words will be considered a learned scholar.

anāḍhyataivāsādhutve sādhutve dambha eva tu svīkāra eva codvāhe snānam eva prasādhanam

A person will be judged unholy if he does not have money, and hypocrisy will be accepted as virtue. Marriage will be arranged simply by verbal agreement, and a person will think he is fit to appear in public if he has merely taken a bath



dūre vāry-ayanaṁ tīrthaṁ lāvaṇyaṁ keśa-dhāraṇam udaraṁ-bharatā svārthaḥ satyatve dhārṣṭyam eva hi dākṣyaṁ kuṭumba-bharaṇaṁ yaśo ’rthe dharma-sevanam

A sacred place will be taken to consist of no more than a reservoir of water located at a distance, and beauty will be thought to depend on one’s hairstyle. Filling the belly will become the goal of life, and one who is audacious will be accepted as truthful. He who can maintain a family will be regarded as an expert man, and the principles of religion will be observed only for the sake of reputation.



evaṁ prajābhir duṣṭābhir ākīrṇe kṣiti-maṇḍale brahma-viṭ-kṣatra-śūdrāṇāṁ yo balī bhavitā nṛpaḥ

As the earth thus becomes crowded with a corrupt population, whoever among any of the social classes shows himself to be the strongest will gain political power.

śāka-mūlāmiṣa-kṣaudra- phala-puṣpāṣṭi-bhojanāḥ anāvṛṣṭyā vinaṅkṣyanti durbhikṣa-kara-pīḍitāḥ

Harassed by famine and excessive taxes, people will resort to eating leaves, roots, flesh, wild honey, fruits, flowers and seeds. Struck by drought, they will become completely ruined.

śīta-vātātapa-prāvṛḍ- himair anyonyataḥ prajāḥ kṣut-tṛḍbhyāṁ vyādhibhiś caiva santapsyante ca cintayā

The citizens will suffer greatly from cold, wind, heat, rain and snow. They will be further tormented by quarrels, hunger, thirst, disease and severe anxiety.

By the time the Kaliyuga ends, the bodies of all creatures will be greatly reduced in size. The path of the Vedas will be completely forgotten in human society, and so-called religion will be mostly atheistic. The occupations of men will be stealing, lying and needless violence, and all the social classes will be reduced to the lowest level of śūdras. Cows will be like goats, spiritual hermitages will be no different from mundane houses, and family ties will extend no further than the immediate bonds of marriage. Homes will be devoid of piety.

What after Kaliyuga – As explained in the Bhagavad Gita

carācara-guror viṣṇor īśvarasyākhilātmanaḥ dharma-trāṇāya sādhūnāṁ janma karmāpanuttaye

At that time, the Supreme Personality of Godhead will appear on the earth. Acting with the power of pure spiritual goodness, He will rescue eternal religion. Lord Viṣṇu — the Supreme Personality of Godhead, the spiritual master of all moving and nonmoving living beings, and the Supreme Soul of all — takes birth to protect the principles of religion and to relieve His saintly devotees from the reactions of material work.

śambhala-grāma-mukhyasya brāhmaṇasya mahātmanaḥ bhavane viṣṇuyaśasaḥ kalkiḥ prādurbhaviṣyati

Lord Kalki will appear in the home of the most eminent brāhmaṇa of Śambhala village, the great soul Viṣṇuyaśā. Lord Kalki, the Lord of the universe, will mount His swift horse Devadatta and, sword in hand, travel over the earth exhibiting His eight mystic opulences and eight special qualities of Godhead. Displaying His unequaled effulgence and riding with great speed, He will kill by the millions those thieves who have dared dress as kings.



After all the impostor kings have been killed, the residents of the cities and towns will feel the breezes carrying the most sacred fragrance of the sandalwood paste and other decorations of Lord Vāsudeva, and their minds will thereby become transcendentally pure. When Lord Vāsudeva, the Supreme Personality of Godhead, appears in their hearts in His transcendental form of goodness, the remaining citizens will abundantly repopulate the earth.Satya-yuga will begin, and human society will bring forth progeny in the mode of goodness.



Conclusion:

What stage are we at in the Kaliyuga? In my opinion we are almost at the end of it, the pandemic, earthquakes, cyclones – are they a sign.

Honestly I couldn’t agree more with what is mentioned in the Bhagavad Gita.



Disclaimer : This article is purely my opinion and is not intended to undermine any other religion beliefs.

Cherish Womanhood…..

Alright, this is not cool at all. A recent survey by Nielsen has revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world: 87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone has caused me to stress out. Even in workaholic America, only 53% women feel stressed.

What are we doing to our women? I’m biased, but Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers, sisters, daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends – we love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies?

For now, i want to give Indian women five suggestions to reduce their stress levels.

One, don’t ever think you are without power. Give it back to that mother-in-law. Be who you are, not someone she wished you would be. She doesn’t like you? That’s her problem.

Two, if you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn’t value you -tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand.

Three, educate yourself, learn skills, network – figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.

Four, do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can’t score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don’t make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don’t work until midnight and don’t get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.

Five, most important, don’t get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbor may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don’t – big deal. Do your best, but don’t keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don’t expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain – stress.

So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the world, and have a good life in return. The next time this survey comes, i don’t want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world.

Cherish Womanhood!!

Should we judge anyone?

A cruise ship met with an incident at sea, on the ship was a pair of couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left.

At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.

The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.

The teacher stopped and asked, “What do you think she shouted?”

Most of the students excitedly answered, “I hate you! I was blind!”

Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, “Teacher, I believe she would have shouted – Take care of our child!”

The teacher was surprised, asking “Have you heard this story before?”

The boy shook his head, “Nope, but that was what my mum told my dad before she died to disease”.

The teacher lamented, “The answer is right”.

The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.

Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.

It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness.
At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.

He wrote in his diary, “How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone”.

The story is finished, the class was silent.

The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologizes first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.
One day, all of us will get separated from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had. Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare… And we will smile with invisible tears because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: ‘IT WAS THEM THAT I HAD THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH’.

Karma… as explained in the Mahabharata

𝑾𝑯𝒀 𝑲𝑰𝑵𝑮 𝑫𝑯𝑹𝑰𝑻𝑨𝑹𝑨𝑺𝑯𝑻𝑹𝑨 𝑳𝑶𝑺𝑻 𝑯𝑰𝑺 100 𝑺𝑶𝑵𝑺 𝑨𝑺 𝑬𝑿𝑷𝑳𝑨𝑰𝑵𝑬𝑫 𝑩𝒀 𝑩𝑯𝑨𝑮𝑾𝑨𝑵 𝑲𝑹𝑰𝑺𝑯𝑵𝑨

After losing all his sons in the war Dhritarashtra bowed down before Shri Krishna and prayed, “Oh, Lord! There cannot be anyone in this world who is as unfortunate as me. I was born blind, I never saw my children’s faces and I don’t know how they looked. I never did anything wrong in my life, I was limited by blindness. Why did I still have to go through this terrible punishment?”

Then Shri Krishna explained the law of Karma to Dhritarashtra, He said,” Rajan, There are three types of Karmas:
— 𝐊𝐫𝐢𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐚 𝐊𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐚
— 𝐒𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐚 𝐊𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐚
— 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐝𝐡𝐚 𝐊𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐚

Kriyamana Karma is what we do in everyday life & the result we face in a few days. Rest 2 Karmas are related to each other, They stay and get accumulated. Prarabdha Karma is part of Sanchit Karma that means a collection of past lives Karma.”

Shri Krishna then gives a divine vision to him to see his past 50 births. Dhritrashtra discovered that 50 births back he was a ruthless hunter & once just to have some fun he threw a burning net on a tree full of birds thus causing 100 young birds to be burnt to death. They became blind due to the scorching heat caused by this fire. Due to the effect of Sanchita Karma, he was destined to remain blind in this life and also lose his 100 sons. After listening to Shri Krishna, Dhritrashtra inquired “Krishna why did I not get punished in that birth itself, or the next birth, for the great sin? Why now?”

Shri Krishna smiled & said,” Your Karma had to wait for an opportune time for 50 births during which you could accumulate enough pious deeds to attain the merit of being born a king & have 100 sons in one lifetime.The Sanchita Karma accumulated over the last 50 births would influence your life as Prarabdha Karma could then instantaneously confront you with the effects of that evil action.”

Interesting Superstitions: From Around the World…

I have been brought up by my grandparents, so for me, superstitions was not out of the ordinary. I am not alone, no matter where you are from, you probably have a few superstitions of your own. Each culture, country and each time period comes with a set of weird behaviors and beliefs to promote good luck or ward of negativity. I am super intrigued by some of them across the world, which I have listed below:

China:

  1. The rice jar should never be empty, this causes grave anxiety, as the cessation of cooking during the New Year period is an ill omen.
  2. The cry of a child is believed to bring bad luck to the family, so parents do their best to keep children from crying by whatever means possible.
  3. It is a taboo for a person to brew herbal medicine or take medicine on the first day of the lunar year, otherwise it is believed he or she will get ill for a whole year.
  4. The number four is extremely unlucky (不幸的 – bú xìng de). This is because the pronunciation of four (四 – sì) sounds similar to the Chinese word for death (死 – sǐ). Therefore, many people choose to avoid the number four like the plague. It’s not uncommon to step into an elevator in China and notice that there’s no button for the 4th floor.
  5. When a person’s Zodiac animal will be the next year, this means that it will be a tough year for them. A solution to this superstition is that they will have to purchase red socks or underwear for a good year and to protect themselves.

United States of America:

  1. Find a penny, pick it up and all day you’ll have luck. This little ditty may arise because finding money is lucky in and of itself.
  2. A rabbit’s foot will bring you luck. Rabbit feet as talismans may hark back to early Celtic tribes in Britain. They may also arise from hoodoo, a form of African-American folk magic and superstition that blends Native American, European and African tradition.
  3. Touch wood; Medieval churches would be filled with wood that claimed to be from the cross. The devout believed that touching the wood would give them a link to the divine and, consequently, good luck. The superstition grew from there.
  4. Breaking a mirror is bad luck. The mirror was once considered to be divine and supernatural, and breaking the image was thought to violate its divinity.
  5. Four-leaf clovers are considered powerful. Clovers were once believed to keep away witches and allow the finder to see fairies. A four-leaf clover are rare and hence lucky if you found it!

Portugal:

  1. Spilling wine on the table brings good luck.
  2. The left foot is in particular unlucky, and it is always better to leave a room or enter a house with the right feet.
  3. If you choke it means someone wants what you’re having and if your left ear warms up, it means someone is saying something nasty about you.
  4. If you dress some clothes on reverse by chance, you’ll receive a gift soon .
  5. If it rains and the sun is shining, it means a widow is getting married.

Spain:

  1. A salt shaker should not be passed from hand to hand, instead it must be placed on the table for the other person to pick it up themselves.
  2. It is said that a lighter shouldn’t be shared among more than three people.

France:

    1. Seeing a spider in the evening might come with a good scream, but it also heralds good luck!
    2. If a person in France puts a loaf of bread upside down on the table, it is considered bad luck. This superstition dates back from the Middle Ages. Bakers were accustomed to prepare  a loaf of bread for the executioner. It was placed upside down so that customers knew it was for the executioner. That is why the bread when it is upside down attract misfortune and death.
    3. If your ears are buzzing, it means that someone is gossiping about you, maybe even from far away.

United Kingdom:

  1. Every leaf you catch falling in autumn will bring you the next year one lucky month each.
  2. Leaving a white tablecloth on a table overnight is said to bring bad luck.
  3. If a sparrow enters your house, it means death to one who lives in the house.

Germany:

  1. It is strongly forbidden to say “Cheers” or “Prost” with water, even as a joke, because it is said you are literally wishing death to all your drinking buddies.(Now we don’t want that to happen, do we?)
  2. It is also said that if you offer a new wallet to your friends, you should put a coin in it. This ensures that the recipient will never be poor.

Egypt

  1. Many Egyptians believe that hearing the sound of crows or ravens, especially during the day, means something bad will happen, even the sight of them is considered unpleasant.
  2. Originally an ancient Egyptian superstition, it is still an extremely common belief that leaving footwear upside down is just really wrong. Ancient Egyptians believed that doing so would insult the gods.
  3. It is often believed in Egypt that if you open scissors and close them again without cutting anything means something bad will happen.
  4. Originating in Egypt, but also present across the Arab world it is believed that the figure of the blue turquoise eye protects you from evil, as well as blue beads and the figure of a blue human palm. Turquoise in general is seen as a good sign.
  5. Also originally from ancient Egypt, there’s the belief that throwing salt over your left shoulder before you cook will fend off evil and make your food better.
  6. Ancient Egyptians believed that if you wake up someone suddenly their soul could separate from their body, that’s why it’s still seen as a bad sign if you’re woken up suddenly.
  7. While Western superstitions consider walking under a ladder a sign of bad luck, ancient Egyptians believed ladders could help them climb to heaven, it’s still seen by some as a sign of fortune.
  8. How spilling coffee and good luck can co-exist in the same sentence is both weird and amusing, but some Egyptians do believe that spilling a cup of coffee means you’re going to have a great day.

India

  1. Do not sleep with your head facing North to prevent cardiovascular diseases. They probably made this rule of sleeping with your head in the South because of the harmful effects related to blood pressure and other diseases that asymmetry with the Earth’s magnetic field would create.
  2. A girl shouldn’t do certain things while she is menstruating – giving women time to rest. The first sanitary napkins were invented in the year 1896, while commercial painkillers were not available before the 20th century. Before that, the five stressful days of menstruation which entail cramps and pain for many women were dealt with Indian medicines. Probably women did not work during those days because of discomfort and slowly this became a ritual and degraded to the form of a superstition.
  3. Eat curd and sugar before heading out – to keep a cool head. The tropical climate of India highly recommends the consumption of curd which has a cooling effect on the stomach. The sugar which is added in generous quantities, before someone is setting out for an important work, provides instant glucose. This combination is hence indispensable for Indians and so its consumption slowly linked itself to good luck.
  4. Plaster the floor with cow dung, which acts as a disinfectant. Cow dung plaster is considered auspicious just like any other product of a cow. Hence, mostly all rituals dictate the usage of cow dung to plaster the floor. Our ancestors probably started this practice to guard against insects and reptiles which are repelled by the pungent smell of cow dung. They did not have the luxury to buy bottled commercial disinfectants like we do. But over time this practice became a ritual and we find ourselves following it in spite of it being redundant in the contemporary world.
  5. Swallow Tulsi(Basil) leaves, never chew – Preventing degradation of the enamel. It is widely believed that Tulsi is Goddess Lakshmi’s avatar and hence one should not chew the leaves but directly swallow them. The actual science behind this is that though the Tulsi leaf is healthy, it contains a little amount of Arsenic. Thus chewing it directly causes the teeth to become yellow or results in the degradation of enamel

Every culture has its own set of traditions and beliefs passed down through the ages, and among the most amusing cultural beliefs are superstitions, which are often unique to each society. I enjoyed reading about them across the world, I jotted down a few interesting ones and I hope you enjoy reading them!

 

Narcissism – Widely Used Term!

I have come across many people, while gossiping stating that this person or that person is a narcissist, but do we know what it actually means!

What is the definition of Narcissist?

It is the act of purposely denying, rejecting, minimizing, negatively judging and/or ignoring your expressed experience, thoughts, actions or emotions!

In my life, so far, I have had two such partners, who displayed this exact character, so based on my personal experience, here are four things that a narcissist may say to you in order to invalidate your feelings, thoughts and experiences.

Traits of a Narcissist:

1. Don’t remember the serious conversation: If we had about something he didn’t like, the next day they wake up and don’t acknowledge it and pretend it never happened. By claiming ignorance he was able to keep away from taking any responsibility for his harmful words and actions.

2. Don’t be so lame, don’t react for everything, you’ll be fine: Sometimes they just don’t care about what you want to achieve and are attached to. If they comment on something which you are attached to even if its the worst comment ever, they just don’t care!

3. You are making a very big deal out of nothing: If you are emotionally inconvenient about something, it frustrates them to no end! Then there is the sentence “You made the decision, it’s over and done with, why are you still upset?” These words are clearly stating that my emotions are not valid and I have no right to feel bad or sad over it.

4. The Silent Treatment: The silent treatment is widely regarded as a form of emotional manipulation and even psychological abuse. It is the act of ceasing to initiate or respond to communication with someone else or refusing to acknowledge them all together. This just conveys that I am worth the effort of speaking to working through whatever caused the disagreement in the first place.

What should you do if you are in this situation?

Well, usually they don’t even realize that what they are doing is actually causing harm. So confronting them is an option, but that could also be completely invalidated.

The best advice anyone would give is get out of the relationship and find someone else, but in my opinion, is accept him/her the way they are(a difficult thing to do) but they will never change and at the end of the day they are humans with experiences in their life which has made them the way they are! Not a bad person 🙂

 

 

 

What is Karma???

What is Karma, do people really know!

A beautiful explanation on Karmic relationship –

The relationship that drives people crazy with anger and frustration are from a past life. These are the people who really get under your skin and exasperate you endlessly. Very often, these karmic relationships are with people in your immediate family.

Karmic relationships mean that you’ve had prior lifetimes with this person, and you both were sent back to be together to work things out peacefully. This was your soul’s choice, although it was probably highly pushed upon you by your guides and angels who helped you script out much of your life. Usually a karmic relationship is someone with whom you had a battle or other harsh circumstances. You returned together in this lifetime to ensure that you’d work things out, and clear both of your energies.

If you don’t clear the energies in this lifetime, you’ll be pressured to continue to incarnate with this soul again and again and again.

And each lifetime, his or her relationship to you will continue to be close, either through genetics and familial bonds, or through friendship, marriage, or career. So, that annoying co-worker could be your mother or husband next lifetime unless you clear the energy with her in this one.

You’re brought together with the other soul so that you can forgive him or her. This doesn’t mean forgiving their actions. It means detoxing your soul by releasing anger toward them. You don’t have to hang out with the person, but you do need to release old pent-up toxic feelings. Holding in old anger is caustic and unhealthful.

It’s also a waste of time and energy to blame that person for family dramas and your own upset. Blaming is a projection of our ego, where we don’t own our own shadows and ego issues, and we put them in the basket labeled: “It’s their fault.” And while it may be true that that person is the instigator of traumas, blaming him or her doesn’t help the situation and doesn’t balance the karma between you.

Breaking the Karmic Cycle:

The first step to break this karmic cycle is for you to take responsibility for its presence in your life. Your soul agreed to be with this person because it was necessary for your spiritual progress. So forgiving yourself is the ultimate secret to healing everything in all directions of time.

This involves forgiving yourself for entering this relationship whenever you did in the distant past lifetime. You probably were given red-flag warnings by your angels then, which you chose to ignore or override. Forgive yourself for ignoring those red flags, and vow to listen from now on. Life lessons only count if we learn from them.

You get infuriated by how this person behaves. But this is how this individual’s personality works and has always worked. You were the one who chose to try to be in a relationship with him or her long, long ago. You were the one who decided that all of those red flags that your angels sent you didn’t matter. You were the one who decided that you could change or fix the person.

Now it’s time to let go of that fantasy that this person could be as you desire or dream him or her to be. You’re not the other person’s Source, nor are you the author of his or her life scripts.

Karmic relationships are akin to having a tug-of-war. They’re power plays, where one person will pull and the other person will pull back. No one wins in karmic power plays. But when one person drops his or her side of the rope (through the process of forgiving him- or herself for getting into this tug-of-war in the first place), the power struggle stops.

That is Karma……

Sound of Music – Do Re Me……. and Edelweiss…..

I am born in Generation X brought up by grandparents born earlier than the silent generation which starts a1920 (My grandad was born in 1917), unfortunately when I look up his generation, there wasn’t a name!

I am brought up by grandfather who were very fond classic movies like the Sound of Music, My Fair lady, Chitti Chitti Bang Bang, the Wizard of Oz, Roman Hoilday , Casblanca, Pride and Prejudice, Little Women and the list is endless.

However I was particularly attached to the “Sound of Music”, to the extent that whenever I need something to cheer me up, I end of watching that movie and sing along all the lovely songs.

The Sound of Music is an iconic film based on an iconic play that made its Broadway debut on this day in 1959. It chronicles the life of Maria von Trapp,whose aspiration to become a nun gets derailed when she becomes a governess to the von Trapp children. … Both were based on the true story of Maria von Trapp’s life.

What it teaches us?

The Sound of Music is an iconic film based on an iconic play that made its Broadway debut on this day in 1959. It chronicles the life of Maria Von Trapp played by the most graceful Julie Andrews, whose aspiration to become a nun gets derailed when she becomes a governess to the Von Trapp children. … but perhaps the greatest spiritual message conveyed in The Sound of Music is that sometimes God leads us in ways we don’t understand as part of His plan for our lives. This is clearly demonstrated in the inner conflict Maria experiences when she finds herself falling in love with the captain Von Trapp.(Played by Chistropher Plummer – ever so charming).

The Sound of Music was filmed from March 26 through September 1, 1964, with external scenes shot on location in Salzburg, Austria, and the surrounding region, and interior scenes filmed at the 20th Century Fox studios in California.

Today we have these wonder Sound of Music tours singing the beautiful songs from the movie, which is definitely on my bucket list. (So Salzburg…. coming soon)

If people have seen it will make sense of my blog, if not I encourage you to watch it!

 

 

In the end I would like share the most beautiful songs’ I have ever heard since childhood is “Edelweiss ”

Edelweiss Lyrics……

Edelweiss, edelweiss
Every morning you greet me
Small and white
Clean and bright
You look happy to meet me
Blossom of snow
May you bloom and grow
Bloom and grow forever
Edelweiss, edelweiss
Bless my home-land forever
Small and white
Clean and bright
You look happy to…

 

 

 

 

Suits – My Learning from a TV Series

I am sure most of the world would been hooked on to suits and once started watching it hasn’t been able to stop till they have reached the last episode…

Suits is not just a TV series but it has a deep meaning and learning for all of us in this world! 20 things I learnt are listed below:

  1. If you do something unethical, it’s always going to bite you in the future.
  2. Always have a Plan B, because Plan A more often than not goes wrong!
  3. Stand up for what is right
  4. Let go of Anchors
  5. When you want to convince someone of something they don’t want to be convinced about, give them something better.
  6. When posed with a difficult decision, remember there’s always a choice.There’s always a way. Sometimes, you need to try the unexpected angle.
  7. Keep your composure
  8. Take risks, else you will never know what you really want and what distance you are ready to go.
  9. Take control of and own your responsibilities
  10. Your real friends are those that stand by you, regardless of the odds against you
  11. Master the art of reading people
  12. Be confident, proactive and a delight to everyone out there
  13. always do your research.
  14. When you want to convince someone of something they don’t want to be convinced about, give them something better.
  15. Just go out there and act like you know what you’re doing.
  16. Study, learn non-stop and know your competition.
  17. Don’t waste time trying to explain the problem, fix it instead.
  18. Never ever have a relationship inside the office.
  19. Always be fact-oriented.
  20. Win or lose, loyalty trumps everything.

Everything we do, watch and experience has a learning!

 

Bad Dreams are Good Signs…..

Two nights ago, I had trouble sleeping early, so I watched stand up comedy on YouTube till I fell asleep around 3:00Am. An hour later I got up with a big jolt, it took me a minute to realized that I woke up because of a bad dream I had.

I tried remembering the dream after a few sips of water. In my dream I died in a car accident as we fell off a cliff while driving! I was a little shaken of course, then I started decoding this dream.

My dream decoded was, A car crash dream will often mirror a potentially life-altering event. Maybe you were recently passed over for a promotion, or perhaps your finances took a hit, putting your goal of buying a house out of reach. You could even be wrestling with the consequences of a breakup. Since I don’t know how to drive, riding on the passenger side could mean you’re taking a passive role in life. Whoever is in the driver’s seat(I am unable to remember who it was, though I wish I could :)) could be the person who’s currently calling the shots for you or the driver could indicate the area of your life that needs your attention. For example, if your spouse is driving, perhaps you feel like your relationship has determined your life’s direction.

Well after reading this, I didn’t feel so shaken as I was earlier. It was just reflection of what’s going on in my mind. The reason I say bad dreams are good, is when you decode you are able to put certain situations or certain incidents together that have occurred and are present in your sub-conscious mind which get highlighted and focused upon.

We’ve all had our share of nightmares. Hey, they’re just a natural part of life!

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But sometimes a nightmare is actually more than just a nightmare. If you’re experiencing them frequently or severely (or frequently and severely), there could be something bigger at play. Here are a few signs your bad dreams could indicate something much, much more serious than a series of random mental images.

  • You’re going through withdrawal symptoms
  • You could be overindulging vices likes alcohol, drugs or smoke
  • You’re on the brink of a major life change
  • You’re Lactose Intolerant!(I am…..)
  • You’re not cut out for scary movies(actually that week I watched two ghost movies – Bhoot and Ateet)
  • You’re not getting enough sleep
  • You’re midnight snacking(Hmmmmm…..)
  • There might be a stressful event/incident in your life currently

In the end “The key to forcing yourself to wake up during a troubled dream is, in the first place, to realize that it is not real – that it is a dream: dreaming and recognizing the fact that you have identified areas that need ironing out in the real world!”