Turning off Negativity….

Every day is different, sometimes it’s wonderful, sometimes it’s good, sometimes ok, sometimes it’s not so good and sometimes it’s the worst!

But what are the days that really has an impact on you, the good or the bad?? Well unfortunately for most of us it’s the one one which has been the worst. As human beings our negative self-talk often runs rampant. We tend to ruminate, thinking the same oppressive thoughts over and over again. And the more we think these thoughts, the stronger they grow.

Hence today I feel it’s important we need to start replacing our negative thoughts with positive ones!

Replacing our negativity with positivity isn’t about turning off all our negative thoughts – that’s nearly impossible to do because negative thoughts typically arise spontaneously and uncontrollably. It’s also not about turning our false negative thoughts into false positive ones. The goal should be to reframe negative thoughts effectively, so they are based entirely in reality, detached from needless drama, and focused on the next small, positive step forward that can be taken in the present moment.

Negativity can ruin health, relationships, property(for people with short tempers) and many more things. So today, ladies and gentlemen; it’s time to start turning off negativity and switching on positivity!

Finally, life is short to live with negative thoughts! Let go…… After all that’s life, learning to hold on to good things and letting go of the bad!

What is Karma???

What is Karma, do people really know!

A beautiful explanation on Karmic relationship –

The relationship that drives people crazy with anger and frustration are from a past life. These are the people who really get under your skin and exasperate you endlessly. Very often, these karmic relationships are with people in your immediate family.

Karmic relationships mean that you’ve had prior lifetimes with this person, and you both were sent back to be together to work things out peacefully. This was your soul’s choice, although it was probably highly pushed upon you by your guides and angels who helped you script out much of your life. Usually a karmic relationship is someone with whom you had a battle or other harsh circumstances. You returned together in this lifetime to ensure that you’d work things out, and clear both of your energies.

If you don’t clear the energies in this lifetime, you’ll be pressured to continue to incarnate with this soul again and again and again.

And each lifetime, his or her relationship to you will continue to be close, either through genetics and familial bonds, or through friendship, marriage, or career. So, that annoying co-worker could be your mother or husband next lifetime unless you clear the energy with her in this one.

You’re brought together with the other soul so that you can forgive him or her. This doesn’t mean forgiving their actions. It means detoxing your soul by releasing anger toward them. You don’t have to hang out with the person, but you do need to release old pent-up toxic feelings. Holding in old anger is caustic and unhealthful.

It’s also a waste of time and energy to blame that person for family dramas and your own upset. Blaming is a projection of our ego, where we don’t own our own shadows and ego issues, and we put them in the basket labeled: “It’s their fault.” And while it may be true that that person is the instigator of traumas, blaming him or her doesn’t help the situation and doesn’t balance the karma between you.

Breaking the Karmic Cycle:

The first step to break this karmic cycle is for you to take responsibility for its presence in your life. Your soul agreed to be with this person because it was necessary for your spiritual progress. So forgiving yourself is the ultimate secret to healing everything in all directions of time.

This involves forgiving yourself for entering this relationship whenever you did in the distant past lifetime. You probably were given red-flag warnings by your angels then, which you chose to ignore or override. Forgive yourself for ignoring those red flags, and vow to listen from now on. Life lessons only count if we learn from them.

You get infuriated by how this person behaves. But this is how this individual’s personality works and has always worked. You were the one who chose to try to be in a relationship with him or her long, long ago. You were the one who decided that all of those red flags that your angels sent you didn’t matter. You were the one who decided that you could change or fix the person.

Now it’s time to let go of that fantasy that this person could be as you desire or dream him or her to be. You’re not the other person’s Source, nor are you the author of his or her life scripts.

Karmic relationships are akin to having a tug-of-war. They’re power plays, where one person will pull and the other person will pull back. No one wins in karmic power plays. But when one person drops his or her side of the rope (through the process of forgiving him- or herself for getting into this tug-of-war in the first place), the power struggle stops.

That is Karma……

Sound of Music – Do Re Me……. and Edelweiss…..

I am born in Generation X brought up by grandparents born earlier than the silent generation which starts a1920 (My grandad was born in 1917), unfortunately when I look up his generation, there wasn’t a name!

I am brought up by grandfather who were very fond classic movies like the Sound of Music, My Fair lady, Chitti Chitti Bang Bang, the Wizard of Oz, Roman Hoilday , Casblanca, Pride and Prejudice, Little Women and the list is endless.

However I was particularly attached to the “Sound of Music”, to the extent that whenever I need something to cheer me up, I end of watching that movie and sing along all the lovely songs.

The Sound of Music is an iconic film based on an iconic play that made its Broadway debut on this day in 1959. It chronicles the life of Maria von Trapp,whose aspiration to become a nun gets derailed when she becomes a governess to the von Trapp children. … Both were based on the true story of Maria von Trapp’s life.

What it teaches us?

The Sound of Music is an iconic film based on an iconic play that made its Broadway debut on this day in 1959. It chronicles the life of Maria Von Trapp played by the most graceful Julie Andrews, whose aspiration to become a nun gets derailed when she becomes a governess to the Von Trapp children. … but perhaps the greatest spiritual message conveyed in The Sound of Music is that sometimes God leads us in ways we don’t understand as part of His plan for our lives. This is clearly demonstrated in the inner conflict Maria experiences when she finds herself falling in love with the captain Von Trapp.(Played by Chistropher Plummer – ever so charming).

The Sound of Music was filmed from March 26 through September 1, 1964, with external scenes shot on location in Salzburg, Austria, and the surrounding region, and interior scenes filmed at the 20th Century Fox studios in California.

Today we have these wonder Sound of Music tours singing the beautiful songs from the movie, which is definitely on my bucket list. (So Salzburg…. coming soon)

If people have seen it will make sense of my blog, if not I encourage you to watch it!

 

 

In the end I would like share the most beautiful songs’ I have ever heard since childhood is “Edelweiss ”

Edelweiss Lyrics……

Edelweiss, edelweiss
Every morning you greet me
Small and white
Clean and bright
You look happy to meet me
Blossom of snow
May you bloom and grow
Bloom and grow forever
Edelweiss, edelweiss
Bless my home-land forever
Small and white
Clean and bright
You look happy to…

 

 

 

 

Suits – My Learning from a TV Series

I am sure most of the world would been hooked on to suits and once started watching it hasn’t been able to stop till they have reached the last episode…

Suits is not just a TV series but it has a deep meaning and learning for all of us in this world! 20 things I learnt are listed below:

  1. If you do something unethical, it’s always going to bite you in the future.
  2. Always have a Plan B, because Plan A more often than not goes wrong!
  3. Stand up for what is right
  4. Let go of Anchors
  5. When you want to convince someone of something they don’t want to be convinced about, give them something better.
  6. When posed with a difficult decision, remember there’s always a choice.There’s always a way. Sometimes, you need to try the unexpected angle.
  7. Keep your composure
  8. Take risks, else you will never know what you really want and what distance you are ready to go.
  9. Take control of and own your responsibilities
  10. Your real friends are those that stand by you, regardless of the odds against you
  11. Master the art of reading people
  12. Be confident, proactive and a delight to everyone out there
  13. always do your research.
  14. When you want to convince someone of something they don’t want to be convinced about, give them something better.
  15. Just go out there and act like you know what you’re doing.
  16. Study, learn non-stop and know your competition.
  17. Don’t waste time trying to explain the problem, fix it instead.
  18. Never ever have a relationship inside the office.
  19. Always be fact-oriented.
  20. Win or lose, loyalty trumps everything.

Everything we do, watch and experience has a learning!

 

Bad Dreams are Good Signs…..

Two nights ago, I had trouble sleeping early, so I watched stand up comedy on YouTube till I fell asleep around 3:00Am. An hour later I got up with a big jolt, it took me a minute to realized that I woke up because of a bad dream I had.

I tried remembering the dream after a few sips of water. In my dream I died in a car accident as we fell off a cliff while driving! I was a little shaken of course, then I started decoding this dream.

My dream decoded was, A car crash dream will often mirror a potentially life-altering event. Maybe you were recently passed over for a promotion, or perhaps your finances took a hit, putting your goal of buying a house out of reach. You could even be wrestling with the consequences of a breakup. Since I don’t know how to drive, riding on the passenger side could mean you’re taking a passive role in life. Whoever is in the driver’s seat(I am unable to remember who it was, though I wish I could :)) could be the person who’s currently calling the shots for you or the driver could indicate the area of your life that needs your attention. For example, if your spouse is driving, perhaps you feel like your relationship has determined your life’s direction.

Well after reading this, I didn’t feel so shaken as I was earlier. It was just reflection of what’s going on in my mind. The reason I say bad dreams are good, is when you decode you are able to put certain situations or certain incidents together that have occurred and are present in your sub-conscious mind which get highlighted and focused upon.

We’ve all had our share of nightmares. Hey, they’re just a natural part of life!

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But sometimes a nightmare is actually more than just a nightmare. If you’re experiencing them frequently or severely (or frequently and severely), there could be something bigger at play. Here are a few signs your bad dreams could indicate something much, much more serious than a series of random mental images.

  • You’re going through withdrawal symptoms
  • You could be overindulging vices likes alcohol, drugs or smoke
  • You’re on the brink of a major life change
  • You’re Lactose Intolerant!(I am…..)
  • You’re not cut out for scary movies(actually that week I watched two ghost movies – Bhoot and Ateet)
  • You’re not getting enough sleep
  • You’re midnight snacking(Hmmmmm…..)
  • There might be a stressful event/incident in your life currently

In the end “The key to forcing yourself to wake up during a troubled dream is, in the first place, to realize that it is not real – that it is a dream: dreaming and recognizing the fact that you have identified areas that need ironing out in the real world!”

 

 

Is Life Unfair…..

Unless you’re winning, most of life will seem hideously unfair to you. The problem isn’t that life is unfair; it’s your broken idea of fairness.

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In Mahabharata, Karna asks Lord Krishna – “My mother left me the moment I was born. Is it my fault I was born an illegitimate child? I did not get the education from Dhronacharya because I was considered not a Kshatriya. Parsuraam taught me but then gave me the curse to forget everything when he came to know I was Son of Kunthi belong to Kshatriya. A cow was accidentally hit by my arrow & its owner cursed me for no fault of mine. I was disgraced in Draupadi’s Swayamvar. Even Kunthi finally told me the truth only to save her other sons. Whatever I received was through Duryodhana’s charity.

So how am I wrong in taking his side ???”

**Lord Krishna replies, “Karna, I was born in a jail. Death was waiting for me even before my birth. The night I was born I was separated from my birth parents. From childhood, you grew up hearing the noise of swords, chariots, horses, bow, and arrows. I got only cow herd’s shed, dung, and multiple attempts on my life even before I could walk! No Army, No Education. I could hear people saying I am the reason for all their problems. When all of you were being appreciated for your valour by your teachers I had not even received any education. I joined Gurukula of Rishi Sandipani only at the age of 16! You are married to a girl of your choice. I didn’t get the girl I loved & rather ended up marrying those who wanted me or the ones I rescued from demons. I had to move my whole community from the banks of Yamuna to far off Sea shore to save them from Jarasandh. I was called a coward for running away!! If Duryodhana wins the war you will get a lot of credit. What do I get if Dharma-raja wins the war? Only the blame for the war and all related problems… Remember one thing, Karna. Everybody has Challenges in life to face.

LIFE IS NOT FAIR & EASY ON ANYBODY!!!

But what is Right (Dharma) is known to your Mind (conscience). No matter how much unfairness we got, how many times we were Disgraced, how many times we Fall, what is important is how you REACTED at that time.

Life’s unfairness does not give you license to walk the wrong path…

Take a proper look at that person you fancy but didn’t fancy you back. That’s a complete person. A person with years of experience being someone completely different to you. A real person who interacts with hundreds or thousands of other people every year.

Our idea of fairness isn’t actually obtainable. It’s really just a cloak for wishful thinking.

Can you imagine how insane life would be if it actually was ‘fair’ to everyone? No-one could fancy anyone who wasn’t the love of their life, for fear of breaking a heart. Companies would only fail if everyone who worked for them was evil. Relationships would only end when both partners died simultaneously. Raindrops would only fall on bad people.

Most of us get so hung up on how we think the world should work that we can’t see how it does. But facing that reality might just be the key to unlocking your understanding of the world, and with it, all of your potential.

Always remember, Life may be tough at few points, but DESTINY is not created by the SHOES we wear but by the STEPS we take…

 

Why is she what she is………

Today I am writing this blog, as I am inspired by an interview I watched of Jayalalitha with Simi Garewal. Link : Rendezvous with Jayalalithaa

Jayalalithaa, women of steel, as the world knows her. But if you watch the link below of the interview you will realise, that circumstances in her life made her what she was. The part which touched me the most was when she narrated her story of days she spent in jail. She was kept in the Madras Central Prison, which was the most unhygenic, and dirtiest place of all prisons imaginable. This place was a condemned building, which was a women’s prison but was declared unsafe and hence the prisoners were moved to a different place, was reopened in her honour(sarcastically stated by her). It was like a dark dungeon from english horror movies, which had not been swept or cleaned, had cobwebs everywhere, fungus growing everywhere, rats and bandicoots running around, a place perfect for someone to run a Zoology class. She was kept in a cell without an inch of even space on the floor. She stayed there for a month, but that’s what made her steel. She readily took everything that came her way with fortitude and didn’t allow anyone break her spirit. She of course then came out of jail and was the only Lioness who could stand against the powerful Karunanidhi in those times.

I know a lot of women, who are what they are because of circumstances. I myself was very naive, trusted people easily and very gullible but personal situations which I keep to myself most often are the ones that have made me this strong independent woman today and am proud of where I am today.

Its extremely easy to survive in this society when you are someone’s daughter or someone’s wife, but when you are single, independent and enjoy life to the fullest being a woman is when you need to think through why is she what she is……..

 

 

In Awe of the Pyramids of Giza!

I was on a business visit to Cairo recently where I was fortunate to witness the last of seven wonders of the ancient world.

The pyramids are so iconic, so astonishingly ancient, that it is hard to imagine that were built 4,600 years ago. Along with the enigmatic Sphinx and other smaller tombs and monuments, Giza has three principal pyramids: Khufu (originally 481 feet high, and sometimes called Cheops, or the Great Pyramid); Khafre (471 feet); and Menkaure (213 feet). Here are a few very interesting facts about them:

 

Why were they built?

The pyramid was built as a tomb for the Fourth Dynasty Egyptian pharaoh Khufu (often Hellenized as “Cheops”) and was constructed over a 20-year period. Khufu’s vizier, Hemiunu (also called Hemon) is believed by some to be the architect of the Great Pyramid.Apart from being burial tombs for pharaohs and their families, the pyramids were also built to spiritually escort the dead pharaohs into the afterlife. The ancient Egyptians were quite religious, and they believed the pyramids were safe entries into the other life after death. The Egyptians believed in many gods and believed that after death, the pharaohs transitioned to gods. They built the sphinx on the pyramids entry to protect the dead kings from spiritual attacks. These beliefs led to the construction of this highly treasured structures.

What is the Significance of the Sphinx?

The sphinx is the oldest royal statue in Egypt which was first built with the pyramid of Khafre. Most of the many Egyptologists who have written about the sphinx argue that the statue was built out of an outcrop of a limestone stone that remained after quarrying enough for the pyramid. The result was the birth of one of the oldest and the most iconic statues in the world. The image is a combination of a lion (symbol of power) on the body, and a human being on the head. From the north side the profile of the Sphinx reveals the proportion of the body to the head. It would appear as though the head is small in proportion to the body. Because of the changing desert terrain, the body of the Sphinx has been buried several times over the past several thousand years. Most recently in 1905, the sand has been cleared away to expose the magnitude and beauty of the entirety of the Sphinx. The paws themselves are 50 feet long (15m) while the entire length is 150 feet (45m). The head is 30 (10m) feet long and 14 feet (4m) wide. Because certain layers of the stone are softer than others, there is a high degree of erosion that has claimed the original detail of the carved figure.

The Under-the-Pyramid Tunnels

Another startling fact about the pyramids of Egypt is the existence of the intricate web of numerous tunnels and mysterious chambers and shafts under the pyramids. The tunnels are as old as the soil itself and behold thousands of artifacts. Not many people know about this, as the tunnels excavations are supervised by the government and the information held with quite a high level of confidentiality. The details of the commodities found under these pyramids in the tunnels and the shafts have never been shared with the public.

Temperatures inside the Pyramids Is Constant at 20°C

Despite the changing temperatures every now and then, the temperature inside these mysterious structures has never gone beyond 20 Degree Celsius. Egypt is a land that faces a very scorching hot temperature during the day, but that has never affected the temperature inside the pyramids. 20 degrees Celsius is the average temperature of the earth. How the ancient Egyptians managed to achieve this high-tech design is yet to be discovered.

Finally, the Pyramids once Glittered

The great pyramids were once glittering in the reflection of sunlight. They were highly polished with glimmering limestone white casing. These coverings have fallen off the buildings with time, and thus you can no longer see the shining surface. Some of the polish has gotten loose and fallen off due to earthquakes, while others have been cut off and taken away. When new, the pyramids reflected the sun rays you would think they were some giant jewels. The great pyramid of Giza is made 2.3 million blocks of limestone.

 

 

Coimbatore – Out of my comfort zone experience!

It was one Monday morning that my boss called me to her cabin and said we have an opportunity for you to move to Coimbatore and be a lead in the work that I do. I thought about it, spoke with my family and Voila; the next thing I knew that I relocated to a Tier 2 city, totally unaware of what it had in store for me. This has probably been my first “out of my comfort zone” moment.

The year and a half I have spent in Coimbatore has been one of the most enlightening moments of my life. I learned so many important lessons that I wish to share with everyone.

1. Getting out of your comfort zone: Sometimes getting out of your comfort zone can be a little scary, but this is exactly where you grow the most as a person. Coimbatore has taught me to seek new things and learn more about the world we live in. Traveling around a city that’s as busy and chaotic as Coimbatore is a little scary, especially when you only know two words and something as simple as buying daily needs can be a bit difficult.  Yet I embraced this challenge, and by the end of my stay I have learnt how to better communicate with locals and I even knew how to get around the city with ease.

2. Appreciate Cultures: India is probably the only country that has different customs and traditions meant that I was going to see and learn about things that I’m very unfamiliar with. I was excited to see what the Coimbatorean culture was all about, I wanted to take it all in and learn as much as I could. It taught me to appreciate other cultures, and if you get the chance to participate in someone else’s holiday traditions, do it! You will be surprised how much you will learn from these types of experiences.

3. Make friends: Some of my favorite moments in Coimbatore was hanging out with my friends in a our apartments, talking about our day and enjoying a drink or two. These friends I made would have never been my friends of I were in a metropolitan city like Hyderabad. We are totally different yet get along so well.

4. Being humble: Their acts acts of kindness taught me more than they know, & those conversations we had about our different ways of life really opened my eyes. People are humble, true to their culture.

Last but not the least, The most important lesson I learned is that we are all one people. Yes, some might dress differently, speak a different language or have different beliefs… but if you look pass that then you will see that we are all really similar.

Coimbatore left a huge impression on me; I was in love with everything that I experienced and learned in this beautiful city. With so much history and such a unique culture, it was really hard not to fall in love with Coimbatore. I hope that I can return to Coimbatore one day but as of now signing off only to explore another such “a way more out of my comfort zone” city!

Ithaa – A World Class Experience!

I recently went on vacation to the Maldives and many unique adventures and experiences that I will cherish for the rest of my life. Here, today I am writing one of the most unique and interesting experiences of a lifetime.

I am a food lover and explorer. One agenda on my vacation was to try all kinds of dishes at the resort and make this trip a gastronomical affair too.

My rendezvous with food started at this restaurant named Ithaa – meaning “Mother of Pearls” in the local language, Dhivehi. This tiny restaurant is a unique concept, where you dine 5 miles below sea level surrounded by Coral reef and colorful fish myriads, which is fully transparent.

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The restaurant designed in New Zealand and constructed in Singapore, using materials from the USA and was shipped to the  Maldives as a completed structure which weighs 175 tonnes. .The fact that the entire restaurant is made of plexiglass makes it unique.

The novelty setting is undeniably Ithaa’s main draw, but the food is also excellent complimenting the entire set-up making it a spectacular experience for any diner.

The cuisine offers a true delight and features a distinctive menu showcasing local spices and produce, blended with Western influences, presented in a four-course lunch menu featuring light fare.

Our lunch started with delicious lobster poached in butter served with a peach salad, followed by a veloute which was to die for. Our main course was a chicken sous vide served with risotto which was cooked to perfection. Our meal ended with the most spectacular pumpkin cheesecake which was just perfect.

 

All in all, the ambiance and the food make this a wonderfully unique experience!